I have heard it all of my life at the few weddings I have attended, even said it myself in April of 1995, they are called vows. A man and a woman vowing to each other to love, to honor, to cherish, and this part which if we don’t do, we cannot uphold the other vows,..’FORSAKING ALL OTHERS”. What does that mean, what is forsaking all others and what does it not mean? If I had just a little understanding of what this meant, maybe today I would not be living under different homes with my family. I pray that at the end of this it will be a blessing to all and shared with others.
Before one can understand marriage, or at least in the Godly sense, one must understand the relationship between Christ and the Church, as this is the example used to show the bond between a man and his wife. The Old Testament Church was the nation of Israel and the Lord God told them that He was a jealous God and He would have no other God before him….Well in the New Testament, Jesus, God in the flesh tells the Church, to love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, with all thy soul, and with thy spirit. We are taught in the Bible that when a man and woman come together in marriage, they are no longer two, but one, as nothing or no one should between a man and his wife. Not your jobs, your dreams, your desires, not even your ministries, as how can one take care of the House of God and cannot take care of home. It is the World of God. For when one takes a wife or a husband and become one flesh, forsaking all others is a must for a successful marriage.
Forsaking all others can be difficult at times, as a friendship could be harmless, nothing sexual at all, but if for whatever reason, however harmless, you must choose between your mate or your friend. Choose between that friend you hang out at work and the woman at home, choose between that work buddy, you know the one that is like a brother, and the husband at home. If outside relationships though it may seem harmless to you, it may even be based on some insecurities by your mate, nevertheless nothing should come between you and your mate. Because you made a vow to forsake all others, just as the old song say there is nothing between me and my savior, there should be nothing between you and your mate. For the Bible teaches us that God created the family before he created the church. Yet is important that we marry someone who holds dear the same spiritual walk with the Lord, for what fellowship light have with darkness.
I don’t care if you are the Chief Apostle and Bishop of the world, nothing should come between you and your help meet, I don’t care if you are a CEO of a million dollar company, nothing should come between you and your wife or husband. Not your friends, not your job, not your dreams, nothing at all, as you made a vow to forsake all others……a lesson that I hope I didn’t learn too late.